What Does it Mean to Live the Proverbs 31 Lifestyle?

  • It means having a meaningful relationship with God  “…a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” Proverbs 31:30
  • It means having a marriage based on love and trust   “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.” Proverbs 31: 10-12
  • It means being a loving and caring mother    “Her children arise and call her blessed” Proverbs 31:28
  • It means caring for those less fortunate   “She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy.” Proverbs 31: 20
  • It means contributing to the family finances “She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes” Proverbs 31:24
  • It means paying attention to her appearance  “She is clothed in fine linen and purple” Proverbs 31: 22
  • It means managing her household  “She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.” Proverbs 31: 27
  • It means being creative in decorating her home “She also upholsters with finest tapestry…” Proverbs 31:22
  • It means providing quality meals for her family “She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar.” Proverbs 31:14
  • It means looking after her health and that of her family   “She girds herself with strength and makes her arms strong.” Proverbs 31:17
  • It means finding time to pursue leisurely interests  “She goes to inspect a field and buys it; with her earnings she plants a vineyard.” Proverbs 31:16
  • It means giving your best in everything you do  “Give her the product of her hands, and let her works praise her in the city gates. Proverbs 31:31”
  • It means integrity in everything you say and do   “Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she smiles at the future. She opens her mouth in wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. Proverbs 31: 25-26”

Here I am, but who am I…?

The 8th chapter of the first book of Samuel is often quoted at ordinations:   “Here I am , Lord.” God called to Samuel and in the 10th verse, and Samuel answered.

The LORD came and stood there, calling as at the other times, “Samuel! Samuel!” Then Samuel said, “Speak, for your servant is listening.”

Sometimes God calls us in a shout, but more often in a whisper. Or a tug at the heart. Often the call is something we feel we cannot possibly do, so we tuck it away for later. But God knows what He wants you to do and He has more faith in us than we do in ourselves. If we are called to do something we find easy, we are likely to take credit for it and allow ourselves to become more important than who we serve.

So, instead, God calls us to reach beyond ourselves and our abilities. Moses was pleased when God spoke to him in the burning bush and told  him He was going to deliver the Israelites from Egypt, but he panicked when he was the one called to lead them. He doubted his ability and in Exodus 3:11, he even argued with God:

But Moses protested to God, ‘Who am I to appear before Pharaoh? Who am I to lead the people of Israel of out Egypt’

Despite his feelings of unworthiness, Moses obeyed God. The task proved to be as difficult as Moses predicted, but he persevered by God directing him every step of the way.

And so it is with us and our callings. We answer, “Here I am, Lord.” But we add, “Who am I, that you should choose me?’ God has given each of us a calling. Some of us are called as clergy, others as teachers, others as parents, still others as physicians and nurses. We are who He wants for the task, and by trusting in Him and following His direction, we can perform the task in a way that brings glory to Him.

God is calling you. Will you answer or let Him go to voicemail?

How Trustworthy Are You?

TODAY’S SCRIPTURE: Proverbs 31:11

The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.


Proverbs 31:11 reads differently in each translation of the Bible. Many modern translations say that she will enrich his life or that he will have no lack of gain.

The King James Version says it a little differently: he will have no need of spoil. This is rather unfamiliar to today’s language, so let me explain: in Old Testament times it was common to bring back money or other valuables that were looted during a battle. This was called “spoil” and was meant to compensate the family for the loss of income while the husband and father was away. The proverbs 31 husband had no need for the spoil, as his wife was competently keeping the home fires burning.

Three thousand years ago, it was not unknown for husbands to lock up the family assets if they went to war, to protect them from their wives. In contrast, the Proverbs 31 woman had the trust of her husband. He knew that if he was suddenly called away he could leave her without the fear that she would drive him to bankruptcy. He was free from the worry of what she would do in his absence.

Her husband was able to take his place in the city council and know that she was handling their household affairs competently. He confidently let her take over teaching the children and running the household so that he could concentrate on doing his job.

In his political position, he needed the kind of wife who could conduct herself with dignity and discretion. She could be counted on never to be an embarrassment to him. She was virtuous to the point where he had no jealousy, fear, suspicion, or anxiety.

The Proverbs 31 woman spent her life helping her husband to be everything God wanted him to be. She provided freedom from the things that tied him down.

Can the same be said about you? Let that be your goal.

Can a career woman be a proverbs 31 woman?

TODAY’S SCRIPTURE: Proverbs 31:24

She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes.


Some Christian groups of traditional Proverbs 31 women contend that two-income couples are blurring the lines between male and female roles. They are missing the point. The economy has changed, and modern families have had to change right along with it.

Since the end of World War II, two income families have been the norm rather than the exception. Gone are the days when the father worked in a secure job, while the mother raised the family and ran the home.

A husband can easily lose his job due to restructuring, leaving the family in a dire financial position. Many couples like the security of having the second income to fall back on; they try to live on one income while they save from the other. Some families simply cannot survive on one income and need the second to help cover household expenses.


Even in a family where the husband makes a higher than average income, the wife might have a career she enjoys, and there is no reason why she should give it up. Naturally, her family is more important (although there may be situations when her job is more imperative) and it in no way is detrimental to her marriage or children.

These situations—as the religious groups suggest—do not imply a defect in the husband’s ability to support his family, nor do they send a negative message to him to that effect. Instead, they demonstrate the flexibility of Proverbs 31. Even if she has a career, a woman is still the heart of her home.

The #1 Lesson from Proverbs 31


PROVERBS 31:10 …a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. (KJV)


If you were asked to name the ONE lesson you learned from the Proverbs 31 woman, what would it be?

Would you talk about her successful home business selling belts to the local merchants? Would you get excited about how skilled she is in the arts of spinning and cooking? How about her vineyard? Or maybe her family — a husband who serves as an elder in the community and children who call her blessed?

Yes, the Proverbs 31 woman seems to have an endless supply of talent, energy and accolades. Women of today become discouraged trying to follow in her footsteps because she is so “perfect.”

But is she?

I feel the most important lesson we can learn from this Biblical role model is how normal she actually is. How much like ours her life was. And how attainable her ideal really is.

Yes, she had servants to help her run her home, and she had the approval of her husband. But her real support came from putting God as the head of her life and family. she placed the emphasis on God.

It stops right there: SHE PLACED THE EMPHASIS ON GOD.

Even if she did not run an efficient home, even if she wasn’t a good and trustworthy wife, even if she wasn’t a blessed mother or a well-rounded personality, her description in Proverbs 31 would still make her a worthwhile study. She is an ordinary woman who loves an extraordinary God.

Take one more look at today’s Scripture: the P31 woman feared the Lord, and she is still being praised today