TODAY’S SCRIPTURE: Matthew 6: 14-15
For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.
As you can see from today’s Scripture, Christians cannot refuse to forgive, as Jesus himself commands it.
If you are offended by something a friend says or does, don’t hold a post mortem and rehash every word afterward. Don’t bring up the other person’s faults or past transgressions.
On the other hand, some people are not as kind as you, and are likely to repeatedly hurt you. You are obligated to forgive them, but do not be foolish enough to keep trusting them. Be careful to avoid those people. Do not resort to revenge; instead, pray for them. In this case, forgiveness means that you have given up hope that anything will be different. It is a reconciliation with the past.
Sometimes you will be the one who unintentionally offended. Ask the other person for forgiveness. If they refuse, ask God. He will forgive, and He will soften their hearts so they will also extend their forgiveness.
In the meantime, let them know that the grudge was only one sided, and that you are willing to re-enter their lives. In other words, forgive them for not forgiving you!